It is heartening to read Judy's story!! Thanks so much for sharing it.

I think your decision depends on how normal a personality your doctor is. If they are in the normal spectrum, I think I would be up front. But there are doctors who are . . . . well, not normal. The worst ones are those who believe they are God. Maybe you have met one or two of those. If you think you may be dealing with a dysfunctional personality with a power complex, then I would never tell that type of doctor. If the doc was truly out of control, they could try to charge you with child neglect.

Trust your gut, as Judy's husband did. If it feels the right thing to do to tell, then do it. If you get a sick, scared feeling, then don't.