How remote are the 40 acres?

If I were in your shoes. Id take a good hard look at that spot.

Leaving the country? Ive thought about it often.
When I moved to Alaska- even though it is still the USA. It did serve the purpose of leaving behind the problems that were present- back then- in American society. Mainly the crank/ speed epidemic. The associated crime of the epidemic. Terrible traffic and overpopulation. I also took issue with California's bi-lingual mandate. Especially in the schools. Not so much with trying to educate spanish speakers. Instead how that reduced the quality of education acailable for all children.

Alaska did resolve all those issues for my family. But it didnt last. Alaska in 2025 is no different than what i left behind in the 80's. The problems seem to always catch up to the areas that resist.

If you went to the virgin islands. Your cost of living is going to double. Owning 40 acres there, even 2 or 5 acres is very cost prohibitive. The pace of living is far easier on ones sanity. But at the same time. You cant get away from the tourists. On top of all this. Who knows how the US treats the territories in the near or long future. Before Trump- I'd have promised living in St. Thomas or St Johns would be just as functional as living on one of the coastal islands like say- the keys or Carolinas barrier islands. With Trump blowing everything up- or trying to- hinting he might do so- or w/e the fk hes actually doing? Just my opinion- instead of being safe & secure. The American territories might wind up becoming lands the US gov ignores.
If you recall- Trump pretty much spit on Puerto Rico. The USVA is an even smaller population than PR. So, should problems arise- like a direct hit hurricane. Trump- what the country evolves to post Trump- becoming an abandoned red head step child is just as likely as not.

Back to that 40 acres. What is lacking there?
Is there available healthcare for your wife?
Can you get neccesities nearby? What would it take to make the "cabin" into comfortable year round living? Do your own feasibility study. Most importantly- what does your wife want?
What is the quality of life you seek?

Back to the beginning of all this.
Your post is titled- scary ass shit.
When I moved to Alaska. It wasnt fear that chased me out of California. It was the fact- as I saw it- the quality of life I desired was no longer available there.

My point is. Fear should not drive any decisions. Fear must be faced. Not always head on- and often by adjusting our own behaviors inorder to sidestep any danger creating fear.
Likewise being reactionary also shouldnt drive our decisions. What we react to may very well just be a moment in time that doesnt last.

What should drive our decisions is forethought.
Think it out for yourself- what is the quality of life I desire in 3 years- 10 years- 20 years.
Ask your wife the same thing- w/o telling her your thoughts. Write them out & exchange visions. Then discuss it. Dont list the negatives- ie. I want to live where theres no trumpkins. Instead write out positive attributes- ie. I want to live in a community where people are friendly & positive minded- lol, dont we all. Or perhaps more attainable. I want to live close enough to have lunch or breakfast with my kids a couple times per week/month.

My priorities are likely different than yours.
I dont want to be around people. I want to be amongst trees, insects & critters. When im outside working. I want to piss on a tree instead of track dirt in the house. If I still had the strength. Id be wanting to drop trees on my 40 acres and build a log main house. Build a stone hearth fireplace, from the native rock. One that i can stand up in. Cook indoors over a fire in that stone hearth. Id want to befriend the local tribal community. Dance at their bonfires. Share my cooked/baked goods with them at their potucks.

Just remember- if you do chose to move. You are going to be the outsiders for a very long time. Ive done so a few times. Its doable. But its very different from having deep roots in a community.

One bit of advice my dad offered- it was true.
Moving wont solve personal problems. It will amplify any existing ones.
If Trump & Trumpkins are the problem. You have to resolve it in your head. Not in a new location. That problem will exist no matter where you go. The Guy has the entire world by the balls. I dont like it. But it is the state of play- 2025.

Lastly. And man my brother- it is the absolute hardest thing to do right now. In your heart and in your prayers. Love thy neighbor. I find myself wishing that same evil thought. " They voted him in- give them their just desert".. I try to catch myself. Remember instead the prayer for the Roman executioners- " Forgive them lord, they know not what they do".
Its never wrong to pray for yourself.✌️
I can speak from experience- nobody needs prayer more then I-😁🙏 Some days- I find myself praying selfishly all day long. Simple prayers- "take my anger", "take my pain", "grant me humility". "Grant me joy with my affliction", " Grant me peace inside this turmoil"... its an endless list. Lol