I have worked in a cemetery so perhaps come at it from a different angle. As the stonemason once said to me,Graves are where promises are made that cannot be kept.
When each of us is gone will our remains be cared for,visited, and talked to and for how long?.
Two aspects to death, oblivion or afterlife, I prefer to believe that I will meet my wife again, if I am wrong I will never know will I? Meanwhile her ashes are by my bed waiting to be mixed with mine before being buried in my garden,its quite a large patch.

My Parents ashes are in Somerset and SE London, never been to either spot. I used to see people in the cemetery talking to their relatives, my view is if those gone can hear you they'll hear you anywhere not just there.

Me, I talk to my wife all round the house, grief is a form of madness, I know I am a bit barmy now.

Hope I have not offended Jerry or any one.

On a stupid note, lets hope bloody Timeteam is not still working in 200years or we'll all be dug up again, but by then all graveyards will probably be Mosques.

Get out while you can Jerry do you want to leave the Old Mod behind in that shithole?