Dear Yvonne, I am so sorry you are going through this difficult time. I understand your grieving for your life before this life changing event and the effort it will take to not let it overtake your gratitude for still having your husband with you on this earth. I know how much you value the holiday season with your traditions and family time. I admire the fact that in spite of these changes your family is facing, you are rising to the challenge (as you have your entire life) and are adapting to the new. You are giving your family the celebration of thankfulness that this year has nothing to do with pilgrims and everything to do with being together.

Cry anytime you can find a private moment and feel the urge. I am a big believer in embracing grief, even if it is just for the life we once had. There is a reason why we humans heal with our tears. We release our pain and move on.

I'm glad our little board is a comfortable place for you to express your thoughts and feelings. We are a small group, but we are mighty in our caring for each other.