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Re: can you live with your love
dear jez, don't give up, don't let your bowels control your life, eventually you will have to go and let mother nature do her work whether you like it or not if someone is in the house. I've just discovered this post, and I thought I was the only one in the world with this problem that I've always been embarrassed to talk about, but it will get better over time if you get used to living with someone. I used to live in a small house with one toilet, when I first got married. And believe me it was extremely uncomfortable at first, because all your partner wants to do is focus on you (if you get my drift.) But after a while when everything becomes routine and you both fall into your own pattern, you will feel more comfortable. He'll fall straight asleep after sex, (perfect time to go), he might start work earlier than you, or you might come home earlier than him. This is not a permanent solution, but my therapist suggested I try cognitive behaviour therapy to combat this (read my latest post after HI). I haven't tried these techniques yet, but that's about the only solution that I was given by a psychologist. Also, try and make it a habit to drink 8 glasses of water per day, eat plenty of fibre, fruit and veges, and try psyllium husks too, this brings on mother nature more quickly. But please, your man sounds too good to give away, pick up the phone and get him back. If you think he is understanding enough, let him know your problem. Believe me, I've been married now for 12 years, have two kids, and no one even notices my problem, life just gets too busy. Good luck - please get your man back!!!!