Dear Michelle,

I don't know if my replay will be of help in your situation, but I hope it will. I want you to know that I had to deal with this king of problem. I had no idea that what I went through was something that lots of other people have. I am a student now, and being here, I discovered that this was a problem that interfered with my life. I could not go to use the toilet when I knew somebody was around, I was bad, really bad. I could not go to the toilet even if no body was in the room, yeah, it was bad.

Michelle, i want to give you some advice that maybe will be of some help to you and maybe to others. Fist is this web site, and I am so grateful to the person that made it available. I was amazed to see how others had the same problem, I suddenly felt more confident and relived. I went and read a lot of the messages in this website and study about this problem.

It helped what one person from this web site told me, and I am very grateful to him or her, the message that I got, it encourage me a lot. I find out that I need to learn how to relax, and be positive, try and go to the toilet even if you don't feel like the need to go. Go and try to get used to being there. And if things don't work out at first, be positive and tell yourself that next time will work. Think in your mind about solutions. Search and you will find.

Don't let this affect your life, I have been through this, I had it all, and I know it can be solved once and forever, or be controlled. I don't have this problem anymore as much. I can go and use the restroom, when people are around, I am not ashamed to go and use a public one, of course needs to be clean. And I think all is about thinking, I don't care if others see me going out the restroom. They have to go to at a moment too.

Don't let this make you depressed, life is beautiful, don't let this get you down, you can get over it.

Hope you have a nice day.

Lory

And another thing that helped me a lot is prayer, I don't know how strong is your belief in God, but I know prayers help, and you can always pray and speak your thoughts. It will bring results. I am sorry for my bad English. Hope this will help you in a way.