Same here. He tells me (and I know he tries) that he understands and cares but when I try and talk to him about it and give him a name for what's going on he basically tells me it's all in my head. It's frustrating that he doesn't seem to see how I could possible have a problem with this when it's like a vice. I'm dread visiting his family for long periods of time, I dread when he takes sick days and I dread when he gets vacation time because it completely messes up my routine. I feel so lost.