Wow, can't believe there are so many people like me out there. I thought I was weird or stupid with this 'shy bowel' thing. I have not gone on a date for over 3 years as I don't want to have to deal with the what to do if we get along and it develops to relationship and I have stay over, or he has to stay over....so I just don't bother!! I am happier since I made the decision not to date anymore but this site has made me re-think this!! I have even put off going away with friends to festivals or on holidays. If I go away with friends I make sure that we are not in a hurry the next morning so I can have the opportunity to have a 'long shower'!! To detract from the smell and length of time in the bathroom!! The 'long shower' has been my saving grace over the past few years!