well my main problem is that i can't visit anyone (or have someone visit me) for fear of getting a bad stomach and then not being able to go to the toilet because of the parcopresis. i mean i can visit for a couple of hours (but not feeling very comfortable) but not if i would have to sleep over (if they live too far away). i always imagine the worst thing: being in someone's flat and getting a bad stomach, and feeling your guts all tense etc., and getting diarrhea. and everbody would hear it. it is very restricting because i've had to decline several invitations of friends / family over the years, and without having a really plausible excuse. i think it's a great idea that you want to start a holland-based parcopresis information point, i wish you all the best! Emily (sorry if this post is too long!)
this feels quite intolerable to me, so to ensure that this will never happen i avoid all situations like that.
quite silly really. but still very real.
so they probably end up thinking i don't want to visit them cause i don't like them very much etc.
do you feel that way too?
what have i done about it so far?
not a lot to be honest, i've had my own flats since i was 18 (only sharing with boyfriend) so i could pretty much control who would visit me or if i wanted to visit somebody. now though i am living with my mum again (temporarily) until i move into my next flat with my boyfriend. it's really hard at times as people just come and go unannounced (her friends and other family members) and i never feel quite 'safe'. and as i have mentioned in a previous post the bathroom is so central that you can hear EVERYTHING.
i haven't had the courage to ask people (like you have) about their toilet habits. somehow i feel that i would intrude into their privacy.
also i don't think people around me have that problem, simply because they can 'go' when i'm around and i notice it. if they had parcopresis i think i would never notice when they go because like me or all of us they would wait until they are alone.
and then i feel if i asked anybody and they do not feel like me (or us) then they might ridicule me and at the same time would know one of my most private 'secrets'/weaknesses and have some sort of eternal weapon against me. ;-) and i wouldn't trust anyone 100% not to ever use it.
all the best,
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