We agree.

The result in schools?
Schools spend too much time as guardians. Surrogate parents.
For those children that have good parents. Come from a stable environment. They are dragged down to the mean.

That GF I brought up.
Man alive. She was a shate parent. When she expressed a desire to move in with me with her brood. I thought long & hard. Wrongly decided to allow it, wuth the thought i could make a positive impact on the lives of those kids. Teach the mom what is required of a parent. What an epic disaster that was. I think, 2 of the 4 kids thought me to be an ass. One realized what I was attempting. Bought in. Had my back. The fourth did the passive resistance thing and did said nothing. Eventually moving in with his dad & joining the army shortly after that. The GF & I wound up clashing over the- "my house, my rules" directive i laud down before anybody moved in.

The bottom line- she was tired of being a parent & just wanted to have fun.

Yeah, that didnt fly with the mother of my children either. Having children. It is a committment to- the kids come 1st. At least thats my view. A parent does what it takes- to raise good, proper, contributing citizens. The parents that raise criminals should be charged with a crime against hummanity. The parents that raise kids to be illiterate to the requirements of citizenship. Should be charged with a crime.

Bc not only are your raising problem adults. Your dragging down the kids at the margin into your black hole of poverty. Your straining the schools and public health resources.

I know its a harsh view. 2 wrongs dont make a right. Sometimes tho. I think of that old Mickey Rooney movie. Soencer Tracy. "Boys town".

Somewhere, from then to now. Parenting really fell apart. It used to be. The undereducated. The stoopid. The unmotivated. Could make a living in some decent paying blue collar field. Those days are gone. The end result of that is all the anger that has overtaken the country.

Schools cant solve the problem unless the idea of school changes drastically. Sometime of seperating of the kids that want to learn from the disruptors. If I were a parent today. I wouldnt want my children going to school with the kids that are forced to raise themselves bc the parent(s) dont take parenting serious.

Perhaps an assessment program. Where at 13 or 14 yrs old. Children are divided into an academic path or a life skill track. Some kids need those life skills and arent motivated to be an academic. Give those life skill kids training to be truck drivers, welders and fry cooks. Run that side like ROTC.
In the process, giving the academic tracked kids the quality of education that was once the norm in america.

Unfortunately, itll never happen. I guess the answer is private school. Which is a shame. Many parents, that do care about raising their kids right. Are priced out of that option. Or. In other cases. There isnt a private school available in the area where they live.

Maybe? Somebody else has a better answer than I.
My idea is unrealistic. Status quo is just a path to more mediocrity.
In the end, like I say about so much. I really shouldnt care. I will be dead soon enough & My children wont be having children. Its just not my problem.
Why do I even care.
Idk, why did Jimmy Carter care.
His answer, why he cared. His faith.
Im certainly no jimmy carter. Yet, i dont know how to NOT believe in always doing the right thing. I think that is wired into us by "faith".