I never gave the gender of the person.
It was not their decision to post, it was never discussed. It was my decision and mine alone to post on the message board.

There is a 7th grade mentality that has stuck with us through adult hood, never talk about gossip to the person it is about. Never give them a chance to validate the rumor, that would take away the dopamine hit the herd gets from such activity. Sick IMO.